Change is in the air

The past couple of weeks have been tumultuous for me with so many things happening in my personal life. Last week my youngest daughter, E, was on a school field trip and gone for 5 straight days—boy did I miss her. During that same week my middle child, L, was invited to go to Disneyland for three days with a friend—boy did I miss her. Then Sunday night, my son, C, was assaulted at the local skate park because someone wanted to steal his bike—boy was I scared. That necessitated several hours in the emergency room, police reports to fill out and general worrying. Tonight my son asked if his friend could move into my house—and my son wanted to move in as well (he lives with his Dad). The caveat was that he wanted his younger sister to swap places and live with Dad. Oddly enough E (the little sister) agreed to the change (she secretly wants to be an only child and this almost simulates that situation—she gets her dad all to herself).  Nobody asked me what I thought or wanted.

I felt so many emotions in such a short time--happy that L got to go to Disneyland, excited that E got to go to Santa Cruz, sad and worried because C was hurt, scared because I was getting another mouth to feed (as if I didn’t have enough already). Tonight on the way to the grocery I wondered why I was crying. Nothing had happened right then, I just needed to stock up on food. After all I was losing an 11 year old girl and gaining two teen boys and I needed food (those boys eat a lot). It suddenly dawned on me that no one really asked me if I was okay with all these changes. As the always agreeable mom I just went along with everything and didn’t really think about how all these changes and events would affect me. It reminded me of how much I don’t like change, but at the same time I know that change brings new situations and experiences.  I am just ready for a “normal” week when not much happens. Maybe that will happen next week—but probably not.

I think the thing that helped me keep my sanity this week was that I had my clients to keep me grounded. There were still ezines that needed sending, teleseminars to set up, and sales pages to tweak. Oh yeah, I also needed to market my class that starts next week. Phew, I am tired just writing about all that. But all that busyness keeps me sane and moving along. What keeps you grounded and helps you navigate the ups and downs of life?

Comments

[Antonette Artiz]

Change is pretty powerful when it swoops you off your feet. It probably wouldn't be so bad if you had just been included.

I, personally, like change, and maybe a little too much. I like different views, different scenes, challenges, hurdles, whatever, and often thrive on far too much where work is concerned. Yet, good or bad changes all cause stress, and I guess it all comes down to managing that huh?!

With the help of friends being honest with me, that's what keeps me grounded. When I was coaching with my mean coach (Stacy) that would keep me grounded. I highly recommend coaching!

Great post, Sharon. Thanks for being so transparent with us. Keep us posted on how all the change turns out.

xoxo
AA

[Sandra]

What keeps me grounded? Knowing I'm not alone.

Thanks Sharon, I needed that.